Building Confidence - 1


 Excerpts from: The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer.

There are lots of reasons why some women no longer have confidence in themselves.

God never intended for women to be less than men in anyone's estimation. Neither are women above men. Both genders should work together for the common good of all. God created men and women and He said everything He created was very good. 

Sometimes lack of confidence comes as a result of childhood experiences, trauma, bullying, physical and psychological abuse, wrong circle, non-acceptance of their body and lots more. Some of them were told lies about the acceptable way and how they had to build their confidence.

A lot of women have been slut shamed for body changes, shape and a whole lot which has brought about low self-esteem. Because of the lingering discrimination, many women still lack confidence. They live in fear of stepping beyond what they feel is acceptable "female" behaviour.

Under-confidence is a condition and maybe a sickness. It is caused by a deficiency of one thing (confidence) and too much of another in this case, fear. Fear is an emotional virus, it begins as a thought in your head and then affects your emotions and behaviour. It is a dangerous virus because a fearful person has no confidence and can never reach her potential in life. Many victims of fear end up being people-pleasers, prone to being controlled and manipulated by others.

Self-doubt occurs when we lack confidence or feel incapable of doing things we need to do. People who doubt themselves experience uncertainty around things they can’t control or worry about things not going according to plan. Anna Chui.

Do not try to be something or someone you're not intended to be. When we do so, we stifle ourselves and God's power in us.  Just because ordinary people take steps to accomplish extraordinary things does not mean they do not feel fear. Successful people have tried many times and failed before they ultimately succeeded. They not only had to begin with confidence, they had to remain confident when every circumstance seemed to shout at them, "Failure! Failure! Failure!." God has used ordinary people to do amazing, extraordinary things but all of them had to take a step of faith first.

The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence. Everyone is about wearing expensive perfume but the best perfume you can wear is self-confidence because it has a way of making you carry an aura that brings about positive acceptance. Confidence comes from discipline and training. Without confidence, you will never feel deserving of good things and never be fulfilled in life. 

Our confidence must be in Christ alone, not in ourselves. When we have confidence in God and His love and His kindness, we can progress to living confidently and enjoying the life He wants for us.

Confidence is not "they will like me". Confidence is "Showing up every single moment like you're meant to be there."

Confidence isn’t walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than everyone else. It’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone else in the first place.

7 Secrets of a Confident Woman.

  1. She knows that she is LOVED.
  2. She REFUSES to live in FEAR.
  3. She is POSITIVE.
  4. She RECOVERS quickly from SETBACKS.
  5. She avoids COMPARISON.
  6. She takes ACTION.
  7. She does not live in "IF ONLY" and "WHAT IF"

Learn to believe in yourself and what God says about you. It is important to build your confidence, work on yourself and accept who God has created you to be. It is time for you to take your rightful place in the family and society. It is time for you to have healthy self-respect, balanced self-love and a firm, unshakeable confidence in God and the gifts, talents, and abilities that He has placed on the inside of you.

WHO YOU ARE?

  • You are a woman!
  • God loves you.
  • You have a destiny and it is high time you live up to your destiny.
  • No one is you and that is your power.

Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside of you that is greater than any obstacle. Christian D. Larson

Confidence is your ticket to greatness. Stop overthinking. Work hard and smart. Inhale confidence, exhale doubt. Your energy introduces you before you even speak. No matter what it is that you're doing, know that you can be the best.

For the fearful and under-confident people, the root of the problem is that they are rejecting themselves. They are rejecting whom God intended them to be.

Show me a confident woman and I'll show you a woman who is willing to walk through life's issues without the fear of getting burnt.

Finally, are you doing what you really believe you should be doing at this stage in your life, or have you allowed fear and a lack of confidence to prevent you from stepping out into new things or higher levels of old things?

10 Days Confidence Challenge by Oloruntobi Ojo

Excerpts from the book, The Confident Woman
by
Joyce Meyer
February 2023

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