Building Confidence - 2

 Hello Thriving Ladies,


I don’t think loving yourself is a choice, I think it is a decision that has to be made for survival- Lizzo

Confidence is a really important topic. Fulfilling your destiny will only be possible if you have confidence. You may have questions like How do I build my confidence, how do I identify myself and how do I fulfill my destiny?

To start with, you need to identify the genesis of your fears. Here is how… Self-evaluate by talking to a professional, yes, a professional or positive person around you who can evaluate you without making you feel bad or less of yourself. It is difficult to self-evaluate but with a professional or the positive thinkers around you, you can know where you’re standing and where you need to work on. Constantly make positive confessions, hype yourself… I am beautiful… I am brilliant…. I’ve got great eyes and a great body… et al. 


Love yourself, eat like you love yourself, drink water like you love yourself – Lizzo


I felt free when I realized I was never going to fit the narrow mold that society wanted me to fit in - Ashley Graham.


Narrow your thoughts into how to become a better person, and vision yourself positively.


There are 3 types of fear: Rational, Premium & Irrational Fear

Rational Fear

This is a real imminent threat. Confidence is not a threat, it is class, a makeup you should never remove, a perfume you should never stop wearing. Identify what the threat is and deal with it. Shut your ears to negative words and move on growing confidently.


Premium Fear

This is innate fear programmed into our brains. We all have an inner conscience that speaks to us. When there is a negative comment within you, there is always a positive comment that validates your confidence. Listen to it by taking a leap of faith.


Irrational Fear

This type of fear does not make logical sense and they vary from person to person. Do not listen to people who intentionally make you feel bad about yourself, continue to build confidence because confidence will conquer the fears from their words.


I have insecurities but I don't hang out with anyone who points them out to me - Adele


Hang out with the right people, the right people will appreciate you and boost you up.


How do I gain confidence?

  • Recognize what you’re good at.
  • Build positive relationships.
  • Be kind to yourself.
  • Start saying NO to whatever negative thoughts come to your mind about yourself.
  • Give yourself a challenge. Every day is a new day to start something fresh


Fat does not equal ugly. Love yourself...Dance and move your body as you love yourself. Next time someone calls you fat, remember you’ve got fat in your body just like them. And having fat is beautiful.” - Lizzo


How can I reach my full potential?

  • Develop a growth vs. a fixed mindset; Always grow your mindset. Keep walking in little steps to where you’ll be in the future.
  • Combine reflection with action, build momentum, and reflect on the things you’ve done so you can be a better person.
  • Focus on the big picture.
  • Time management is key. Try to at least achieve 60 to 80% of your goals in a year. Also, reach out to people who can help.
  • Have big dreams and take small steps to fulfill your potential. Don’t reinvent the wheel, take small steps to achieve your big dreams.
  • Practice discipline. Check your health, what you eat, what you say, what you think.


Conclusively embrace and love your body. It is the most amazing thing you can ever have, it is your mind you will have to convince. Speak words of affirmation even in daring situations.


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Building Confidence
by
Adekunbi Kuye

Excerpts from our April 2023 Hangout: 22/04/2023

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