The Journey of a Waiting Girl - Naya's Story (Part 2)

Naya had a small break from work, and while eating out, she ran into Temi, an old friend from her Tech Internship way back.

Temi: "Hello Naya, the ever on-point lady. A wonderful afternoon to you.”

Naya: "Temi baby, how are you doing? Been a while.”

Temi: "The most beautiful Naya, why is your face looking morose like this?”

“Don't mind me, just exhausted from work. It has been a whole lot settling into the corporate work environment, with all the meetings, deadlines, and finicking for details." Naya answered

Temi;"Ehh sweet, tell me about our desires for breakthroughs, however, forgetting it comes with its demands. At least money is coming in" teasing her.

Naya responded with a wide smile while rolling her eyes.

Naya: “Have a seat, Temi,” (while looking at her plate)  “I am enjoying this seafood soup. What is this you ordered, are you still dieting? Babe don't kill yourself.”

Temi: “Forget that, the tummy must be flat”

Naya: “I pity you”

Temi (excitedly): “I learned you have plenty of handsome, boxed-up guys in your company; gist me baby, who is on board now?”

Naya:  "Guys? Temi, I am on a love break. No room for heart race at this point." 

Temi: "Naya, what do you mean? Don't let these fine fine guys go ooo.”

Naya: "Temi, I am still recovering from my last experience with Gerald. It took a whole lot from me; let me breathe. At this point, I am focusing on building myself, finding who I am, and ensuring the next attempt is with the right mindset and person.”

Temi: "You never really told me the details; what made you part ways with Gerald? He seemed such a promising man.”

Naya: "My dear, I was sincerely not ready, but then, most of my peers were hitched and it seemed something was wrong with me. Comments here and there about missing out on the good guys and 'you are getting old' just threw me off balance.”

Temi: "Oh really, tell me more.”

Naya's reply: "Being a Nigerian woman, at least 25, and not in a serious relationship seemed outrageous. Funny how the world has set a timeline for us, women. Well, I know it's one thing to want a relationship with the right person and it's also another thing to heed the advice of people who think you need to explore relationships because the clock is ticking. My advice to anyone at this point is to not fall for the pressure. Our friends may mean well, but personally, we know what's best for us and when we are truly ready.”

Temi: "But we all want to be loved, what do we do with all the men flocking around us?”

Naya: "Correct, Temi. But, trial and error leave us more emotionally damaged than necessary. The relationship with Gerald was a struggle; we were not getting along well. I was there because I wanted to try out a relationship. Before Gerald, I had never been in a relationship, although I had always said when the right man comes, I would know, plus the spirit of God in me would direct me to do right. However, I stayed with Gerald because I had listened to many opinions from my friends, and I had been advised that it was not a big deal to get into a relationship with him. Besides, we called frequently and seemed very likable. It, however, dawned on me that there was no point wasting time in a relationship that I didn't have my mind in; I had to quit. It hurt, but it was best for both of us. I am still trying to heal.”

Temi: "Looking back, is there anything you would have done differently in handling the relationship or its aftermath?”

Naya: "I don't know if I would have done it any differently though. Looking back, I cared. He did too, but I could not just connect deeply. It was more than the feeling, more like something was missing. I tried, but it was not just working out, so we had to move on. Seemed like a part of me was missing in the relationship.”

Temi: "So, what are you planning to do differently going forward?”

Naya: "Firstly, to let the butterflies lay low no matter how much it tries to race ahead of reasoning. To always ensure we are in sync in our values, ambitions, desires, purpose, and other important areas. To ensure I know who I am dealing with, his goals, desires, history, mindset, fears, and all that influence his way of life. As a believer, to always wait to hear from God, trusting his timing and to never settle for less or get unnecessarily adventurous just because I want to get married. To be sure it is really who I want and convinced of.”

Temi: "So tell me, how did you transition back to being single after the relationship ended?”

Naya: "The transition was tough. Sometimes, I felt jittery. Sometimes, I wanted to call and spent a while relishing old photos, thinking about what would have been but I knew I had to help myself to snap out of it, so I took post-breakup insights. I read books a lot, prayed, and settled in my heart that God had great plans for me. Moreover, I am spending more time on finding me now. I feel there is more to me than what I know now.”

Temi: "Sounds good, seems a timely meeting. I have learnt so much from you this afternoon. Let me calm down with the butterflies I am beginning to feel for Jide.”

Naya: "Ehnn, who is Jide?"

Temi: "we will not get back to work if we start. Thats talk for another day. Lets meet up later. “Ok darling” Naya said as she hugged Temi. “It has been great connecting with you. 

Naya: Have a pleasant time dear, byeee”

From: The Journey of a Waiting Girl Series

#ThrivingWhileWaiting #TheJourney #TheJourneyOfAWaitingGirl #thejourneyisthedestination💗

OUR WEBSITE