Thriving While Waiting

  “Priscilla, what time is it?" Aunt Gogo inquired.   I raised my Kelvin watch and peered into it for answers.    "The time is 6:30 pm,” I told her cheerfully.    “The day is far spent”, I remarked. In my naivety, I thought I was performing my social responsibility by telling her the time but the time but the look on her face suggested otherwise.   "Not that time," she said impatiently. Confused if I had offended the neighborhood spirits, I used my eyes to search her eyes for a cue.    "I meant your biological clock." Oh! I shuddered. That was the only answer I could give in that grave moment.   "You have clocked thirty and yet you don't have a man. See my daughter, do not be deceived that you are equal to a man. A man may have all the time but not you. I know you are looking at your achievements and degrees, but your biological clock is ticking, and it is not waiting for you. What is a woman without a man? sh...

Naya had a small break from work, and while eating out, she ran into Temi, an old friend from her Tech Internship way back. Temi : "Hello Naya, the ever on-point lady. A wonderful afternoon to you.” Naya: "Temi baby, how are you doing? Been a while.” Temi: "The most beautiful Naya, why is your face looking morose like this?” “Don't mind me, just exhausted from work. It has been a whole lot settling into the corporate work environment, with all the meetings, deadlines, and finicking for details." Naya answered Temi; "Ehh sweet, tell me about our desires for breakthroughs, however, forgetting it comes with its demands. At least money is coming in" teasing her. Naya responded with a wide smile while rolling her eyes. Naya: “ Have a seat, Temi,” (while looking at her plate)  “I am enjoying this seafood soup. What is this you ordered, are you still dieting? Babe don't kill yourself.” Temi:   “Forget that, the tummy must be flat” Naya:  “I pity y...

Review from the book, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill Dear Thriving Ladies, The subconscious mind takes any orders given to it in a spirit of absolute faith, and acts upon those orders, although the orders often have to be presented over and over again. DESIRE is the starting point of all achievement – Napoleon Hill It is of importance, the way we think about ourselves. Thoughts are things in the realest form of things. Your brain and mind are the same thing, the mind is the psychological term for the brain while the brain is the medical term for the mind. The brain and mind when recognized as one are important. There are three (3) parts of a human being that can vibrate: your words, your sexual organs, and your thoughts. We have the power to control our thoughts. Our brains become magnetized with the dominating thoughts that we hold in our minds. By means with which no man is familiar, these magnets attract to us the forces, the people, and the circumstances of life that harmon...

10 Practical Steps to Building Confidence (10 Days Confidence Challenge) Day 1: Write down all your fears (your doubts and failures). Day 2: Drop the fears at Jesus' feet and take His peace. Make this your daily mantra, I hand over all to you, Jesus. Day 3: Write down all the goodness of you that you can remember (gifts, talents, dreams, achievements, etc.). Day 4: Meditate on all the goodness you listed out about yourself and make this confession: I accept a new life. I embrace my full potential, God's original plan for me, and all he has for me. Day 5: With the help of the Holy Spirit, list people who will help you get back on track, list those who are not helping your journey and objectively decide what to do with them. Day 6: Call at least one person you have been procrastinating to reach. Be specific about what you want and how it will add value to your life or fulfill your dreams. Say to yourself, I receive the favour of God and man. Day 7: Meet one or more new pers...

  Excerpts from: The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer. There are lots of reasons why some women no longer have confidence in themselves. God never intended for women to be less than men in anyone's estimation. Neither are women above men. Both genders should work together for the common good of all. God created men and women and He said everything He created was very good.  Sometimes lack of confidence comes as a result of childhood experiences, trauma, bullying, physical and psychological abuse, wrong circle, non-acceptance of their body and lots more. Some of them were told lies about the acceptable way and how they had to build their confidence. A lot of women have been slut shamed for body changes, shape and a whole lot which has brought about low self-esteem. Because of the lingering discrimination, many women still lack confidence. They live in fear of stepping beyond what they feel is acceptable "female" behaviour. Under-confidence is a condition and maybe a sickness...

 Hello Thriving Ladies, I don’t think loving yourself is a choice, I think it is a decision that has to be made for survival- Lizzo Confidence is a really important topic. Fulfilling your destiny will only be possible if you have confidence. You may have questions like How do I build my confidence, how do I identify myself and how do I fulfill my destiny? To start with, you need to identify the genesis of your fears. Here is how… Self-evaluate by talking to a professional, yes, a professional or positive person around you who can evaluate you without making you feel bad or less of yourself. It is difficult to self-evaluate but with a professional or the positive thinkers around you, you can know where you’re standing and where you need to work on. Constantly make positive confessions, hype yourself… I am beautiful… I am brilliant…. I’ve got great eyes and a great body… et al.  Love yourself, eat like you love yourself, drink water like you love yourself – Lizzo I felt free whe...

The Journey of a Waiting Girl - Naya (27) Tech Sis. Two months to turning 25, I still had never been in a serious relationship. So when I met Gerald in a virtual internship, my friends, Kim and Chiazo said; give love a chance just this time, looking me in the eye and willing me to consider it. I like to be sure about serious things.  He called every day. So everyday, I picked up the phone and answered the same questions. On days, he didn't call, he sent text messages. I let him. We liked the same things: God, books, music, history.  Th e day he asked for a relationship, I sat on the bed staring at my phone.  My younger sister, Kosolu, bumped into the room from the kitchen with her loud music.   "You look confused, Naya, what's up?" she said laughing but I sat still, not turning to look at her. "Gerald wants a relationship," I murmured.  She stopped laughing, a huge silence hanging above us. "Virtual relationships, Naya? No. You may not like him when y...

Hey Thriving Ladies,  Style is personal. The way our fingerprints are so is our style - Efosa Okundaye. As we get older, we get more familiar with the word gravity. Body parts don’t remain the same so some of us get skilled at packaging and some give up while we “let the girls run free”. For the rest of us, we struggle every day to find the middle line between “packaging” and giving up. We wonder if Christians should package and if yes, how far we should go before we begin to look like the world. Society has its definitions and they are constantly changing. How is a girl ever supposed to keep up? God’s definition of beauty is unchanging – a gentle and quiet spirit “which is of great worth in God’s sight.” Nothing about height, weight, dress size, or anything else about your outward appearance. Beauty is not your weight, height, your complexion and is not dependent on the size of your boobs, your waist, and your butt. Do not get stuck in the will of trying to get in the vogue, be p...